Feminist Dad

Who is Feminist Dad?

Feminist Dad is NOT every man. I am not taking the piss out of men in general. Yes, of course men can be feminists. Many men are feminists. Feminist Dad is the particular type of man who, having ignored/denied/been oblivious to the existence of sexism for his entire life, suddenly sees it once he has a daughter. And he expects feminists to listen to him as he tells them about the existence of sexism.

Don’t get me wrong – it is good that he now sees the obstacles his daughter faces simply because of her gender. Problem is – from my experience – this rarely translates into giving a shit about the obstacles that exist for other women. There is an enormous amount of information about these obstacles and the shit that women have to deal with in their daily lives. You can start with how to prevent rape. Or sexting. Or the bottle of entitlement. Or how women are paid less simply because they are women. Or about how female graduates are offered smaller starting salaries than male graduates. Or about how female carers are financially fucked. Or about how women are more likely to live in poverty because they are underpaid and do the bulk of the nation’s caring work. The thing that Feminist Dad needs to realise is that feminism is about more than just his daughter.

Send your suggestions for Feminist Dad to newswithnipples at gmail dot com.

The Adventures of Feminist Dad:

Episode one

The cup of Milo edition (so named because of this)

The 2012 London Olympics edition

The Alan Jones edition

The College edition

The politics edition

17 responses to “Feminist Dad

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  3. I’m having trouble with the bottle of entitlement link. This link: http://www.gabbysplayhouse.com/webcomics/sexism/ shows up better for me. Hope this helps.

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  5. Craig Edwards

    I won’t jump in on the ‘can men be feminists’ thing, aside to note that when I was a student activist, I was always happy to accept the idea that femninism is the domain of women, but can be supported by men (male feminists undercutting the notion of female self-empowerment). Terminology aside though, one point you point you missed is the tendency for fathers to welcome equal pay and economic opportunity, while still rsadopting a 1950s-esque view on female sexuality for their ‘little angel’. I don’t mean the understandable parental squeemishness on such matters (no parent wants to think of the kid whose nappies they once changed being sexually active – just like nobody wants to think of their parents being sexually active) – I’m referring more to the broader view of gender relations, in that the newfound concern is often confined to economic factors in conjunction with concern for extra-familial assault.

    At the same time, I do think that exposure to close family members of opposite gender does go a long way towards breaking down essentialist gender bias. I’d be a very different person if I didn’t have two older sisters. I’m not sure whether that is even a bad thing – knowledge has to come from somewhere, and if the only source of information a person has is tv/film/advertising, then it’s easy to see how unhealthy bias can form. I’ve known old campaign allies of mine who (and this in no way reflects my experience with feminist activism in general, but both academically and in activist circles it would be simply false to say that radical + radical-separatist feminists haven’t contributed to feminism) used to take a view of all males as dangerous until proven otherwise, until they had a son, after which their approach to feminism changed significantly.

    One last point worth considering, I have no idea how good the methodology for this study was, I don’t even have a link, and I can’t even remember whether I encountered it in the Guardian or the NY Times (hooray for internet research rigour!). But I recently read that in a broad survey of large firms with male CEOs, the ones whose CEO had daughters also had more female employees, a higher proportion of women in management, less of an income gap between men and women in the company, and more flexibility for employees. Which may indicate that while having daughters might open their eyes, it might not be a narrow tunnel-vision. If true, that may mean that they’re less concerned with trying to DIRECTLY promote their daughter’s interestes, and more intrested in trying to create a corporate environment in which their daughters, and their daughters’ peers, will have a more equitable opportunity. Again, nothing to boast about (though it might be a bit harsh to scoff at genuine contrition were it to arise), but the benefits aren’t necessarily confined to the particular daughter in question.

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  9. It does happen and I saw it before I had a daughter!
    Scott

    • Good for you. Most men do see it, and that’s why Feminist Dad is not about them. It seems to be something that affects male journalists a lot, but that could just be because their “hey ladies, let me tell you about sexism that’s happening to you” opinion pieces are highly visible.

  10. Although not necessarily on the feminism/journalism spectrum per se I wonder if you are at all inclined to tackle media portrayal (in particular advertising) of multi-cultures…? putting it out there..

  11. on second thoughts, I should probably start me own blog *laughing a little on inside*

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