What an arsehole

I copped a shitload of abuse on the bus home this evening, and I’m still pissed off about it four hours later. There were two empty spaces on the back seat so I sat down in one. The man next to me, on the window side, was 38-45, well dressed, and sitting with his legs quite far apart. Unnecessarily far apart because really, no one has balls that big. He didn’t shift over when I sat down, so I had to sit on the crack. Anyway, a woman sat down at the next stop, and when I shifted over to give her room, the guy – we’ll call him Arseface from now on – didn’t move his leg to give me room. So I did the exaggerated shift thing, and said something like ‘gee, there’s not a lot of room here, is there?’ while looking pointedly at his leg that was in my space.

He didn’t take the hint. Then the woman on my other side started getting a bit antsy, looking across at him and rolling her eyes and huffing. So I thought I’d ask him nicely to shift over. Big mistake.

Huuuuuge mistake.

I said to Arseface (in a pleasant way) ‘hey, would you mind moving your leg over a bit so we can all have a bit of room’ and then he said ‘what? What do you want me to do? There, are you happy now?’ to which I said ‘yes, thank you very much’. Then Arseface paused for a moment.

Arseface: It’s because I’m Asian isn’t it, you fucking racist bitch.
Me: Um no, I’m not racist and it has nothing to do with you being Asian. I asked you to move over because you were taking up two seats and the bus is full.
Arseface: You fucking chose to sit here. You fucking racist, you fucking racist whitey bitch.
Me: Ok, sure whatever, I’m a racist bitch.

Then I turned away.

He paused for a few minutes.

Arseface: You fucking ugly cunt, you fucking ugly fuckface racist cunt. What is it with you fucking whiteys thinking you can tell everyone what to do?
Me: Mate, all I did was ask you to stop taking up two seats when the the bus is full. Just because you’ve have a bad day doesn’t mean you can be so rude.
Arseface: You’re so fucking ugly, you’re the ugliest fucking bitch I’ve ever seen, you fucking ugly racist cunt.

At this point the woman next to me tapped my arm and whispered ‘don’t, he might hit you’.

My heart was pounding. I was furious. I still am. And not because of what he said. I don’t give a shit about Arseface. I know I’m not a racist cunt. Or ugly, for that matter. I’m furious that NO ONE else said anything. A full bus, people standing right up to the back seat, only a couple of iPods in the back three rows, everyone listening to him, and NO ONE SAID ANYTHING. They just listened as this fucking arsehole tore shreds off me for no reason.

Just before I got off the bus, I was so tempted to say ‘Mate, the reason people don’t like you has nothing to do with the colour of your skin and everything to do with the fact that you’re an arsehole’. But I didn’t. I wish I had.

When I was being outraged later to Man Friend, he said it’s not surprising that no one helped. But I think it is, since I’ve butted in to arguments like this to help the person getting abused for no reason. And I’ve seen others do it too. So all you people on the 428 from the city at 6.24pm, you’re a pack of fucking cowards.

9 responses to “What an arsehole

  1. That’s fucking horrible! I can’t believe nobody said anything! That makes it even worse. If I’d been on the bus I would have had your back 🙂

    Sucks you had to go through that though. What an asshole.

  2. Sorry you had to deal with that. Seconding what B’nette said – had I been there I would have been right in the fray. Actually we could have done a scathing feminist tag-teaming on the prick, which would have been awesome.

    I’ve actually had guys sit down after me and try to pull that spread-legged sitting shit and then be absolutely astonished that I don’t budge a millimetre so then they’re forced to either retreat from the battle or remain snuggled up next to a disgusting dyke – *evil laugh*

  3. I forgot to say – it sometimes helps to calmly point out that such verbal abuse/harassment is against the law and then maybe pull out your phone as if you might be going to record him, take his pic or call the police. That does shut some of them up pretty fast.

    • Damn, I wish I’d thought of that. At least taking his photo so I could post it here. I’ve had to ask guys a few times to not sit with their legs so far apart and each time they’re surprised – can’t see anything wrong with the way they’re sitting – but they still move, no doubt thinking what a crazy bitch I am. It got me thinking about experience. Arseface’s experience of Australia is quite different to mine, which again is different to how Man Friend experiences Australia, being a white, middle class, smart, good looking straight guy. I have no doubt that Arseface experiences racism, but his attack on me was disgusting and unwarranted.

  4. Actually this totally reminds me – the other week I was at a concert and I went to sit down. This guy was taking up all the room so I told asked him politely to make room. He just ignored me. So I swore at him and went off to have a smoke. While I was smoking he went up to my little brother and had a go at him! He told him he’d beat the crap out of him etc if he didn’t control his “woman”.

    So that asshole went after my little brother instead of saying his piece to me! My little bro told me of course (he was quite upset – he’s a shy wee thing) and I turned around and gave The Asshole a look that no doubt made his balls shrivel and said “You stay the fuck away from my brother or we’re going outside”*.

    Bastard. Thinks just because my brother is tall and male he can have a go (and in doing so implies I’m the property of any male I’m with).

    Hmmmm not sure where that rant is going….Bloody assholes who take up all your chair…yeah that’s it.

    *totally bluffing though I would go there if somebody hurt my little bro.

  5. I had a a parking rage incident on saturday with a big bogan in a 4 wheel drive porsche at marrickville metro and he told me to ‘keep quiet let my husband speak for me’. lucky my ‘husband’ drove off quickly so that I didnt launch myself at his eco terrorist car and kick 7 bells of shit out of it and him

    we do have to be careful though cos some of those big, nasty and strangely angry men hit and if its not you its the poor guy who happens to be standing next to you. grrrrr.

    you console yourself that they are just dumb neanderthals but that doesnt help the bruising go down.

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