I want to return to Josephine Asher‘s weird idea that feminists have forced men to live by women’s rules (check out the comments on that post – Asher used a fake name to say she’s intelligent).
Those big bad feminists. Damn, I guess she knows about our secret meetings on how to castrate men and how to punish women who like to wear pretty dresses. Just as – gasp! – women are not all the same, so too are feminists not all the same. I’m a small-l liberal feminist, which fits with my small-l liberal politics. As just one example, Linda Radfem‘s feminism is much more radical than mine, yet we are both feminists. Even if we don’t always agree, I love the passion and anger and knowledge that drives her feminism. And, just like in real life, the priorities of individual feminists change as their lives change. Like all social movements, feminism adjusts to the wins and the losses: women recently got a win with parental leave (albeit basic leave), but we are still losing the equal pay and opportunities battle.
So, I submit to you evidence that feminists do not rule the world.
Exhibit A: Leggings as pants
Sure, leggings are comfortable, but leggings as pants are very revealing. Bottoms and often labia are there for all to see. Who would benefit from this item being worn by the majority of young women, I wonder? Also, for a second summer in a row, micro denim shorts are in. I challenge anyone to argue cogently that feminists control mainstream fashion.
PS: Leggings are not pants.
Update: This last quip was me being silly and we had fun ribbing each other about it in the comments. I am thankful for my regular readers who knew I was being a goose, but this doesn’t change the fact that I offended people. And I am sorry I offended people. Readers were correct to point out that people can wear whatever the hell they like. And this is a position that I firmly believe in. Unless they’re newsreaders, in which case they should look more smart office than nightclub. Until I was pulled up on this, I had never considered the classism, sizeism and ableism issues around leggings as pants. So, thank you. You make me better.
Asher writes: Feminism has achieved victories for women, but could it be at the expense of femininity, chivalry and attributes of the opposite sex that instinctively attract us to each other?
Frankly, her idea that victories for women – such as the right to own property, the right to have a bank account without needing our husband’s signature, the right to an education, the right to paid employment outside the home, the right to choose to be a stay-at-home mother, the right to keep our job if get pregnant, and the right to control our reproductive systems – are less important that having a man open a door for you, is just odd. Plenty of men open the door for women. Just as plenty of women open the door for men. It’s called manners.
But I’ve digressed. Boobs. If feminists controlled the world, breasts wouldn’t be used to sell clothes for men.
Exhibit C: Toilet cleaner ads
If feminists ruled the world, it wouldn’t be women and only women who appear in ads for toilet cleaner. I’ve seen just one ad with a man in it, and he was an “expert” who magically appeared to show the women in the ad how the job is done properly.
Exhibit D: Rugby league players
I rest my case.